I wrote my first eBook
This feels strange to write, but also right.
Over the past few years, I’ve been writing about dating, relationships, and the quiet patterns that keep repeating themselves in our twenties. Mostly in notes. Mostly in group chats. Mostly as half-jokes that landed a little too close to the truth.
At some point, I realized those notes were doing something for me. They were helping me see things more clearly—not just men, but myself. Why I stayed. Why I adapted. Why certain dynamics felt familiar even when they weren’t good for me.
So I collected them. I shaped them. And eventually, they became my first eBook:
Emotional Anthropology: Field Notes on Love & Self-Discovery in Your Twenties
This isn’t a dating guide. It’s not advice in bullet points. And it’s definitely not about “fixing” men.
It’s a field guide to patterns.
Inside, I break down the archetypes so many of us have dated:
the Dreamer
the Light One
the Older One
the One Who Doesn’t Know What He Wants
the Finance Bro
the Athlete
the Intelligent One
the Trust Fund Baby
and yes — the rare Green Flag
Each chapter mixes observation, storytelling, humor, and the uncomfortable self-awareness that usually comes after the relationship ends. It’s written from my perspective and from years of watching my friends go through the same cycles in different fonts
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What you get:
52 pages of essays, stories, and hard-won lessons
Original illustrations throughout
PDF + EPUB formats (works on any device)
Instant download
If you’ve ever:
overanalyzed texts at 2 a.m.
stayed because “the timing is just off”
felt chosen because someone finally made time for you
or realized too late that you were adapting more than you were being met
—you’ll probably recognize yourself somewhere in these pages.
I wrote this slowly, thoughtfully, and honestly. Not to be clever, not to be cruel, but to make sense of a decade that quietly shaped who we become in our thirties.
[You can get it here →] Emotional Anthropology: Field Notes on Love & Self-Discovery in Your Twenties
No pressure at all. Even knowing this exists and found its way into the world already feels big to me.
Thank you for reading, for being here, and for letting me share this part of my work with you.
— Adema